Sunday, November 15, 2015

2009 Christmas Letter

Paul & Christine Winward Family Letter 2009
The Best, the Worst, and the Most Unusual

Biggest change this year:

  • In June we had to move with only 30 days notice when our landlady decided to allow the townhouse we had been renting go into foreclosure (so take note of our new address!)

Most precious moments:

  • Carol Lynn giving “kisses” not with her lips but by gently (and sometimes not so gently) patting your cheeks with her hands.
  • Christine being able to attend the temple with almost all of her family, as her little sister, Janet, took out her endowments in preparation for serving a mission.
  • Christine being able to meet up with some dear friends at BYU’s annual Women’s Conference.
  • Enjoying a family vacation at the beach.

Most exciting purchase:

We are finally a minivan-driving family, hurray!  With baby number four on the way (another boy due at the end of February for those of you who haven’t heard yet), short of strapping him to the top of the Camry, we didn’t have much choice but to upgrade.  We all love our new Sienna!

Funniest quotes:
  • I came down the stairs to find Peter rubbing Vaseline all over his head.  “Are you surprised Mommy?” he asked.
  • After saying a super fast prayer, Paul commented, “Peter, that was too fast,”  Peter smiled, “Yep, my lips are smokin’!”
  • Peter said: “I think that our next baby is going to be a boy because Heavenly Father likes patterns!”
  • Rebekah complained loudly while picking up the living room, “What did you have children for? So you could have slaves?!”
  • “You know what the difference between Mommy and Daddy is?  One has long hair and one has short hair!” (Rebekah)

Most expensive mistake:


This was definitely a lesson in paying attention to Heaven’s promptings.  I was packing for our trip and decided that instead of putting all of the laundry away, I would just leave it folded in the baskets and put it away when we got home.  As I glanced down at one of the baskets, I noticed Rebekah's blue dress's tie was hanging out and I had the very clear thought, “you should hang up the dress or Rimsky (our cat who is part goat and loves to eat clothing, especially strings) is going to eat it”.  But, instead, I decided to just tuck the tie under the clothes and I figured if he couldn't see it, he wouldn't eat it.  Well, needless to say, he did eat the tie.  By the time we got home, he was in pretty bad shape and Paul was worried enough about him to take him to the emergency vet clinic.  They had to do surgery to remove it.  I think this episode makes our cat the most expensive member of our family.

Most terrifying experience:

We had a quite a scare this year.  When Paul was changing Carol Lynn’s diaper, she lodged a goldfish cracker in her throat.  She had taken in a big gulp of air (like they do when they're really about to let loose), then there was total silence for way too long.  Paul began firmly patting her on the back immediately, but nothing was helping.  I've never been more frightened in my life than when looking into my baby's blue face, just pleading with Heavenly Father to let her breathe.  I think that she actually lost consciousness for a little while because she went completely limp, but I continued to pat and I finally started to notice slight movements in her face.  Her eyes opened and closed and I could hear very faint breathing, then she started coughing.  We both cried for quite a while.  Peter ran and grabbed her two favorite blankets for her and Rebekah came down and told us she had been praying for Carol Lynn.  It’s so easy to forget just how fragile life is.  Tragedy can strike so quickly.  One minute we were all laughing, and the next, we were all pleading that Carol Lynn not be taken from us.  We’re so grateful she's OK.

New hobbies/talents:
  • Rebekah has learned to swim and read this year!  She also has discovered a love for math and is one of the best students in her class.
  • Peter learned how to count to 209 and can now pump himself on the swings.  He has also discovered a love for soccer.  I think he may have a future as a goalie. 
  • Carol Lynn loves birds, fish and amphibians.  She is so fascinated by them.  She even sleeps with a stuffed animal frog she calls “Poppy”.  She is also our little climber and dare devil. 
  • Christine was able to rekindle her love for art by taking a community watercolors class over the summer.  She also got CPR certified after the terrifying experience with Carol Lynn.
  • Paul has enjoyed learning how to create applications for his iPhone.  I’m amazed at his creative ideas for games.  He hopes to be able to market them eventually, but for now it’s a fun hobby.

We wish you all love and good wishes this Christmas and hope you have a fabulous New Year!  Keep in touch!

Love,  

The Winwards (Paul, Christine (Wilcox), Rebekah (6 ½), Peter (4 ½), Carol Lynn (2), Rimsky (cat)) 

2007 Christmas Letter

Dear Family and Friends,                                                                               

We started this year, with a move across the country from Illinois out to California (our flight left very early New Year’s morning).  Although the move had its trials, we are so grateful to be back on the west coast, only a day’s drive from family and less then 30 minutes from the temple.

Paul has been working for Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory at the Joint Genome Institute in Walnut Creek since February.  He’s very much enjoyed the wonderful group he works with and participating in intramural sports on his lunch brake.  At church, Paul is our ward’s Activities Committee Chair.  He’s done an amazing job planning three very large scale activities this year including a formal Christmas dinner and program.  He enjoys using his spare time coming up with and developing various website business ideas, spending time with the children, and playing with his new cat Rimsky.  He’s so grateful to have time to do the things that he enjoys.

Christine is so grateful for the support of our new ward.  There are many young mothers with children similar ages and a playgroup that really helped with the transition.  Missing the music class back in Champaign, Christine organized and started a music class in our new ward that has become very well attended and both the moms and children look forward to.  She is currently serving in the ward as the Relief Society counselor over education and really enjoys serving with the amazing women in the presidency.  Much of the year has been spent in anticipation of a new baby girl expected any day now.  We’ll make sure to update you on the details when she comes.

Rebekah (age 4 ½ ) has had the opportunity to try out several new activities since the move.  She loves to play soccer with Daddy, and really enjoyed her brief classes in gymnastics and ballet.  Over the summer, she also had her first swimming lessons.  By the end of class, she could float on her back independently and was very close to swimming solo.  We’re sure that she’ll be a little fish next summer.  Her favorite things to do during the day are to make projects and pictures during quiet time, and to play games on the computer (Its amazing how quickly a four year old can learn to navigate a website!).  She is a great big sister to Peter and is so excited to have a new little sister soon!

Peter (age 2 ½ ) is all boy, and my little chatter box.  It seems like since we moved he’s been talking up a storm, often surprising us with his understanding and sense of humor.  His favorite things are trains, trucks, and Lego’s.  He can be found making a train track out of just about anything: books, VHS tapes, Lego’s.  In fact, much to our horror, Peter and Rebekah were caught several months ago drawing a railroad track across the carpet with crayons!  You could say he has a one track mind, that has been missing some of the obvious changes about to take place in his family.  When asked, “Do you know that Mommy has a baby in her tummy?”  Peter glanced at me with a look of total disbelief that gradually turned into a grin and a twinkle in his eye as he playfully teased us, “I have a baby in my nose!” 

We love you all and are so grateful that you are a part of our lives.  Happy Holidays!

Love,


            Paul, Christine (Wilcox), Rebekah & Peter & (soon to be announced) baby girl Winward

2006 Christmas Letter

Dear Friends and Family,                                                                                              December 2006

Happy Holidays!  We hope this holiday season finds you happy and well.  We love you all so much and are excited to share some highlights of our past year with you.

Paul has been working on finishing his Master’s Degree in Computer Science this semester at the University of Illinois in Urbana-Champaign.  It’s been a rough but very educational experience being in the program, and Paul is excited to graduate this December.  Adding to the excitement of graduation is the promise of a job in Walnut Creek, California that he’s really looking forward to.  It will be rewarding to be able to put his education to use in a stimulating and challenging work environment, then be able to come home and enjoy his family (instead of his homework or research) in the evenings and weekends.  We are all looking forward to this change.

Christine has kept herself busy this year with various activities, including: a book club, a mother-child music class, weekly playgroup, preschool with Rebekah, and working her Mary Kay business.  It will be hard to leave all of the amazing friends we’ve made and all of the wonderful support of the moms, but we’re sure that, as we keep reassuring Rebekah, we will not be “losing” our friends in Champaign, only making more out in California.

Rebekah, now 3 ½, is our little princess.  She loves to play dress up and frequently can be heard before seen as she clip clops in her plastic princess heels around the house.  She often reprimands what she deems inappropriate behavior by saying “That’s not how princesses act!”  She is also the princess in our playgroup.  It worries her parents that at age three she has already mastered the art of persuading all the little boys to do her bidding and they all fight over who gets to sit next to her.  She is quite the social butterfly and the first question of the day usually is, “Who I play with today, Mommy?”  She has perfect faith, and in her evening prayers, she likes to insert things like “and thank you I get to play with Ryan tomorrow, I love Ryan and he’s my friend and I love to play with him.” Inevitably, some turn of events will end with her playing at Ryan’s house the next day, whether or not it was originally planned.  She is a joy in our home and constantly keeps us on our toes with her quick thinking and love of teasing.

Peter will be 18 months on Dec. 8th (nursery here we come!).  One of his recent games is to stand in a particular corner of our house and wait for someone to say, “Ready, set, GO!”, then he dashes off around the house and ends at the same spot, waiting patiently for the next race.  Sometimes, he gets impatient and shouts “Go!” himself.  Peter also loves to show off by climbing on things (chairs, the small seat of his bike, etc.), balancing himself and standing, no hands, then smiling at us with a mischievous twinkle in his eye and announcing “Ta Da!” ... this gives me no end of worry, but I can’t help but laugh at his bravado.  He also loves to push buttons and drives his sister crazy by constantly changing the channel or turning off the TV, pushing the power button on the computer or reprogramming the telephone.  Once, when the telephone/answering machine was within reach, I observed him pushing a button that replied “No messages”, Peter continued pushing the button faster and faster until it just kept repeating “No, No, No, No …, No!”  This seemed to delight Peter to no end, much to my dismay.


Paul and I were able to celebrate our 5th anniversary this August with a trip with no kids (I highly recommend this!) to Seattle (where we had gone for our honeymoon).  It’s crazy to think that five years have already passed.  We have been so blessed and although we have had trials that seemed overwhelming at the time, looking back, we are so grateful for our experiences and for our beautiful children, supportive families and amazing friends.  Thank you all so much for loving us and being a part of our lives!

Love,

Paul, Christine (Wilcox), Rebekah (3 yrs.), and Peter (1 yr.) Winward



2014 Christmas Letter

Winward’s 2014
Paul, Christine (Wilcox), Rebekah (11), Peter (9), Carol Lynn (7), Eric (4), Kathryn (2), James (7 months)

‘Twas soon to be Christmas, when all through the house


Not a creature was stirring, except for my mouse;
I began taking stock of our year with great care,
To share struggles and joys with our friends everywhere;

The biggest changes to our family this year,
Came on the same day, bringing us so much cheer.
Just hours after our sweet James had arrived,
We bought our first house, at the hospital bedside.

Though packing and moving is now just a blur,
The summer flew by in a haze we are sure.
We love our new home and our neighbors are great!
We have plenty of room for our family of eight.

Paul loves to care for our beautiful front lawn,
Where many a Saturday hour has gone.
After hanging rope over our tree for a swing,
The neighborhood kids have pronounced him the king!

To hear Christine call out children’s names without pause,
Is a feat few have heard.  It’s unlikely because,
Though she starts out strong, her tongue tumbles & twists,
Her quick plea for help comes out something like this:

“Rebe - Carol - Kath - Lynn - Er - Peter - I mean,
Argh!  You! Over there, please just hand me that thing!”
While each precious child is so loved and treasured,
Her brain cell count was falling, last time we measured.

Despite this decline, she is proud to announce
This fall she began taking classes that count!
Returning to college has been a long-time goal,
Realized through Pathway BYU-Idaho.

James is a blessing, and his smile we adore.
Each sibling will claim they’re the one he loves more.
Crawling at six months and cruising along too,
He’s eager to catch up and join the Winward zoo.


Kathryn (a big sister), grown so tall, so quick,

She’s feisty and bossy, and boy can she kick!
But oh! What a charmer when you play her game,
She rides trikes, sings songs and is really quite tame.

Eric builds and designs, with supplies that are near.
Curious George inspires our young engineer.
When scissors and tape are missing quite often,
We know a masterpiece is under construction.

Now Carol Lynn is reading, a book worm is she.
Magic Tree House has become her best friend, you see.
Her two-wheeler bike, she has conquered at last,
And math is the subject where she has a blast.

Peter thrives solving puzzles, improving his speed.
In the Rubik’s cube club, he soon took the lead.
Pushing his limits, running with Grandpa is fun,
Beginning to play cello, he’s an active one!

Overcoming her fears, Rebekah clearly sang,
As the good witch of Oz, Glinda was her name.
Her creative writing earned smiles and applause,
And playing violin is still one of her loves.

As a family, we’ve been blessed to attend,
Not just one, but two temple dedications.
First Gilbert, then Phoenix, we felt so much joy,
To be there as family, with each girl and boy.

We’re grateful for each of life’s little lessons.
Our year has been full of so many blessings,
With hearts full of gratitude, and eyes full of tears,
Merry Christmas, dear friends and a Happy New Year’s!

Love,
The Winward’s


2013 Christmas Family Letter

Counting our Blessings
Winward’s 2013

When upon our pillows we are tempest tossed,
Time to get up already?  Surely all is lost!
Bleary eyed we stumble to the living room,
Morning prayer soon lifts us from our sleepy gloom.

Count our many blessings:
Paul’s thyroid cancer’s gone!
Count our many blessings:
Eric’s talking up a storm!
Count our many blessings:
Peter’s been baptized!
Count our many blessings:
Pie night with 9 pies!

Sometimes I feel burdened with a load of care.
I admit, I pray we’ll find clean underwear.
Mountainous loads of laundry from a crew of      
  loving kin,
Race to fold and hang them before it’s time to do   
  again!

Count our many blessings:
Eric buses to preschool!
Count our many blessings:
Peter’s like a  fish in the pool!
Count our many blessings:
Kathryn’s finally in nursery!
Count our many blessings:
Our 12th anniversary!

When we look at others with their lands of gold,
We know we are blessed with love, a wealth
  untold.
Count our many blessings, money cannot buy,
Giggles and sticky kisses before the day is nigh.

Count our many blessings:
Completely out of debt!
Count our many blessings:
Rimsky is our big cat pet!
Count our many blessings:
The kids now rollerblade!
Count our many blessings:
Dirt yard, now grass will never fade!

So amid the conflict, homework, making meals,
We’ll not be discouraged, overwhelmed with bills,
Scriptures, prayers and kisses, hugs and stories  
  too,
Everyone’s tucked in, why are we tired? Phew!

Count our many blessings:
Carol Lynn loves going to school!
Count our many blessings:
Our Oregon trip was so cool!
Count our many blessings:
Rebekah’s music skills grow!
Count our many blessings:

Christine’s beginning to show!

Merry Christmas!  Love, The Winwards

Paul, Christine, 
Rebekah (10), Peter (8), 
Carol Lynn (6), Eric (3 ½), 
Kathryn (20 months), baby boy (due mid-April)

What would I trade motherhood for?: A Poem

What would I trade motherhood for?
Not for money, glory or fame.
Not for education of earthly acclaim.
Not for a full night’s sleep each night.
Not for running errands without a fight.
Not for time for myself to draw, sew or read.
Not for all the things I think I really need.
Not for a clean house and lovely furnishings.
Not for leaving on time and always finding my keys.
Not for quiet and peaceful mornings and eves.
Not for all the world has to give.
How can I trade away a part of myself?
Never have I known more what I can do.
Never have I surprised myself as to what I can live through.
Never have I realized the strength from within.
Never have I felt so at one with Him.
Never have tears been more sincere and sweet.
Never has life been more full and complete.
Never have blessings been so liberally given.
Never before have I felt how near is heaven.
Never have I grown and learned more.

Never have I felt more certain what I’m here for.

What I wished I knew as a NEW Mother:

What I wished I knew as a new mother:


  • Nursing HURTS for up to the first 6 weeks, but then it’s wonderful.  Stick it out!
  • Don’t keep track of how many times you get up in the night, it just makes you more tired.
  • When you have a new baby, a shower is extremely important … take one everyday if possible, every other day at the very least … your baby may cry, but you will feel so much better having gotten ready and dressed.
  • It’s tempting to measure your success as a mother by how much your baby cries.  Babies cry.  It’s OK.  You are a person too.  If you never eat, sleep, go to the bathroom or get ready because you’re baby might cry … you’ll be the one crying!  Give yourself permission to take care of you, even if the baby has to cry for a few minutes for that to happen.
  • Stay connected with friends, family or other moms.  The first year of motherhood can be really lonely.  Your husband is at work or school, and with the baby - you don’t get out as much as you used to.  The phone is a great tool to keep in touch and stay sane.  
  • If there is a playgroup in your church or neighborhood, make an effort to go.  Playgroup is for moms - kids just happen to have fun too.  You don’t have to wait until your baby is old enough to play at the park to go.
  • It is worth it to buy in between clothes.  The tendency is to either want to be in maternity clothes or in your pre-pregnancy clothes.  The reality is that it takes a while to get back into your regular clothes and it’s depressing to still be wearing maternity clothes after you have your baby!  For me, it can take a full year to completely get back to my old size.  It is much easier to feel good about your body and yourself if your clothes fit.  Invest in some in between stages clothes.  You’ll be so grateful to wear things that fit.
  • The Moby Wrap style baby carrier is by far the most comfortable carrier I’ve ever tried.  It’s the only one that I’ve used that can accommodate newborns-toddlers.
  • Instead of putting the baby carrier in the shopping cart and having no place to put the groceries, carry your baby in a Moby Wrap or other baby front pack.  Baby is happier close to you (less likely to fuss and more likely to sleep through the whole trip) and you can actually do your shopping.  This is especially helpful when you have more than one child and your toddler decides to run away from you at the store … they are easier to chase when the baby is strapped to you than trying to race after the toddler with a fully loaded cart, trying not to tip the carrier.
  • When nursing, drink water every time you nurse, every time you sit down, every time you feel hungry … essentially drink water all day and all night!
  • For nighttime feedings, have a dim night light on where you will be taking care of the baby.  Never turn on the lights.  The night light should provide enough light for you to change the baby and nurse.  Keep your eyes closed as much as possible.  Having a high backed chair to nurse in is extremely helpful, because you can almost go back to sleep while nursing.  Some moms can nurse lying down in bed.  This hasn’t worked well for me, but definitely try not to wake up any more than is absolutely necessary to take care of baby and go back to bed.  Don’t look at the clock!
  • Get a good nursing pillow.  I love my “Brest Friend” nursing pillow.  It buckles around you and provides not only support for your arms, but also for your lower back.  I love that it has a little attached pocket, perfect for holding extra nursing pads or nursing creme or the ever elusive pacifier.
  • Find a good outlet.  For me, the first year of being a mom was very emotional.  Being the oldest of eight, I was confident in my ability to take care of a baby, but I was unprepared by the pressure of trying to be the perfect mother and the constant physical demands.  Writing in my journal became crucial for me.  I didn’t have any close friends, because we moved when my first baby was only 1 month old, so writing my thoughts and struggles and feelings was how I was able to sort through them and keep them in check.
  • When you are sleep deprived, everything seems like a mountain.  Know that sleep deprivation is temporary.  Be patient with yourself.  Lower your expectations for the first few months.  Around 3-4 months, napping patterns start to emerge more consistently and you will regain much of your lost energy to finally accomplish all of the projects you’ve just been staring at or thinking about while nursing the first few months of motherhood.
  • Allow your husband to be involved.  Let him know how he can best help you.  Know that he will do things differently than you with the baby.  Let him.  Encourage him.  Give him confidence and praise his efforts as a new dad.
  • Encourage your husband to ask you “How was your day?” instead of “What did you do today?”  Focus on the positive when you answer and that’s what you’ll remember.
  • Our rule at night is I get up with the baby to nurse and change, but if the baby is still fussing, my husband takes over so I can rest for a while.  By tag teaming, we both get some sleep.
  • At church, we trade off who gets to stay for Priesthood/Relief Society each week.  I try to nurse during sacrament meeting, because I can still hear the speakers in the mother’s lounge.
  • Commit to going to church and staying at church each week.  It’s very easy to rationalize going home early when you spend the entire block walking the halls or nursing a fussy baby, but stay committed.  As a parent, church is hard.  Waiting for it to get easier before you stay for the whole meeting will lead to inactivity.  
  • You can still grow in your testimony and serve in the church as you walk the halls.  Fellowshipping others and living gospel principles such as “patience” instead of just hearing about them will bring you closer to your Father in Heaven if you stay with the right spirit in your heart.
  • Don’t fall into the comparison trap.  Try not to compare yourself or your baby to other mothers and babies.  Spend time lifting up your other mother friends and laughing about shared experiences, but don’t start feeling like you’re not a good mom because you don’t ___________ like ___________ or your house isn’t as clean as ___________ or you don’t do cloth diapers like ________________ or your baby isn’t rolling over yet like __________.  You are the perfect mother for your baby.  Trust your instincts and have faith that you are doing the best you can do.  Your best is different from others and is pleasing to your Heavenly Father.
  • Pray!  Everyday I pray for strength and energy and patience and love and help prioritizing my day.  As mothers, we are partners with God in a great work.  He always answers our prayers.
  • Plans unravel very quickly with children, so be flexible.
  • Hold your baby as much as you possibly can the first few months, because they grow out of the snuggly phase so quickly!